Monday, February 8, 2010

Why is it so hard when one is sensitive to deal with the daily of onslaught of false accusations?

The people and other employees at work seem to be always saying false or inaccurate remarks about myself at work and I am not one to be a whiner however I find myself defending myself on issues or comments I hear from others. I am not a sociopath and have feelings - whereas others may not. What is the best solution on how to just let these incidents go? Not bring them home and talk about them to others?Why is it so hard when one is sensitive to deal with the daily of onslaught of false accusations?
It may help to confront these individuals (not aggresively of course) %26amp; and find out if your perception about what they're saying about you is in fact correct.


It is possible that you may be misinterpreting what they're saying, or the signals they're sending. If it turns out to be the case, ask them how you can improve in whatever area they're accusing you of having a shortcoming. Remember, they may not be correct in their assessments, perhpas they just need to get to know you better. Try by all means to sort out the problem at your place of work, and not bring them home with you. This could just place a strain on you and your family life. In any event, no-one in your family can really directly help you if it is a work matter. These matters are best handled before they continue to escalate and in a civil manner. Also, if your work is up to date, and is of a good standard (you can enquire as to your performance from your boss / superior) then you have nothing to worry about. The company itself may have internal grievance procedures you can follow to resolve this, since this matter seems to really bother you and may affect your work. Preserve your job, until you find a better one, at all costs. It isn't easy, but you must assume that responsibility. hope it all goes well for you... (Talking to others - friends, family helps on one level, as long as you don't obsess to much to these significant others about this. They may even have advice about this, that could be helpful, but always, always use your discretion when it comes to this...Why is it so hard when one is sensitive to deal with the daily of onslaught of false accusations?
Either laugh it off and start making fun of them, or quit.





They seem to be picking on you, joking, and you're taking it too seriously. Try giving back what they gave you and accusing them of stealing food/hardware/supplies. Give them some **** and maybe they'll see you as a little tougher and give up.





Or, if you really don't like it, go find another job with nicer people.





I say, stop being a wimp and stand up for yourself.
It's hard to be unjustly talked about; ignore comments--do not dignify them with a response. Write out what remarks and false hoods are being said. Document them, seal in envelope. Let it go. Have a ceremonial cleansing of your mind from the hurt and anger.





A hostile work environment is detrimental to you physical and mental health. Might be time to seek a new job/position at a different venue if you can't learn to deal with things in a different manner.
You know what, pretty much everybody goes through the phase you are talking about. Please remember one thing, those who speak ill of you are like barking dogs. Please ignore them. The only way to tackle this issue is with the positive attitude. Silence is the weapon you need to use against them and trust me, it is the deadliest weapon which can be used on anyone. Try it and you will see the amazing difference. And coming to the thoughts, do not take them home from your work. Just go to some coffee shop or some place after the work, relax for a while, think positively and then go home. That should help.
Ignore them.





They are like petulant children who repeat ';weedle weedle weedle'; over and over just to annoy you.





Every lie is a weedle.


And when you stop paying attention to the weedle, they get bored.





Then you swoop in for the kill -- and charm them with the truth that isnt so boring about yourself





:) peace out

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